Note to readers: This is my fourth blog post, and sometimes I find it to hard to write these posts because I end up having more questions than answers. Sometimes these posts will be a bit jumbled and confusing, because they’re all my thoughts coming out. I’ll try to check my posts a week later to clarify anything vague or odd. Thank you for your patience and understanding.
Have you been lonely? Being isolated more than ever during the pandemic, it’s easy to forget that there are people there for us, and even knowing there are people there for us isn’t always enough. Sometimes the hardest thing is to admit that we’re not okay or even to realize we’re not okay. Just because we’re okay most of the time doesn’t mean we’re really okay. I have to admit that for me the pandemic hasn’t been easy. In beginning it was okay, but as time went on it became harder to brush off the moments I wasn’t feeling so good. On top of that, being around the same people 24/7 and only them can cause some tension in home life.
I’m here to say that it’s okay if you’re not okay. The first step is to accept it so you can work on it. The second step is to reach out to the people who care about you. You may feel that no one cares about you, but that’s not true. A quote that gives the best answer for this feeling is “the world is filled with lonely people afraid to make the first move”(Green Book). A lot of times there are a lot of people who love and care for you, but they might just not feel it’s right to get involved or reach out, so it’s okay to reach out first and let some one know how you’re feeling. Another reason you don’t want to reach out may be because you feel no one will understand. That maybe true, but maybe understanding isn’t always necessary to make you feel better and less alone. Sometimes all you need is someone who will listen to your pain and be there for you. Just sitting with someone in silence and being there for them makes a huge difference. I can’t explain why, I just know that many would agree. Both of these steps are extremely difficult and scary to accept and pursue. It is important to keep in mind it takes strength not weakness to do these steps, so remember to never feel ashamed for needing to pursue these steps.
If you’re feeling alone, scared, lost, or all of the above, you’re not really alone. There’s a whole world of (7 billion!) lonely people just too afraid to make the first move. In this loneliness, sometimes all you can see is what’s right in front of your nose, so get out of our comfort zone. Talk to someone, maybe that’s a family member, friend, or stranger, but don’t allow that fear to paralyze you and stay alone with you’re feelings. A good start would be when you get that how are you doing text, just be honest and say not too well. Find the courage to admit how you’re feeling and don’t let yourself be alone, especially when we have billions of people to reach out to.
If you’re really not okay and need mental health support that’s okay. You are not weak for needing help. It takes bravery and courage to admit you need help, so never feel afraid or ashamed to. Here are some important numbers if you need them:
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 (24/7)
The Trevor Project: 866-488-7386 (24/7)
National Eating Disorder Association: 1-800-931-2237.
Crisis Text Line: Text SUPPORT to 741-741.
National Alliance on Mental Illness: 1-800-950-6264.